I don’t know about you, but I often feel like I’m fighting a losing battle with screens.

They’re shiny, quick, and always available. They give children what they want in an instant. Meanwhile, play – the very thing that helps them grow into curious, creative, independent people – sometimes struggles to compete.

The good news? We don’t have to rely on sheer willpower, either theirs or ours. We can borrow some tools from a surprising place: behavioural economics.

It’s the science of how people really make decisions. Not the tidy, rational version, but the messy, human one. And when we design the environment with that in mind, play suddenly becomes the easy, obvious choice.

Here are eight ideas, each with a simple experiment you can try at home.

1. Commitment devices

We behave better when we’ve already promised in advance - but how that looks depends on age.

• For over fives. Make a public pledge. Mark “Screen-Free Saturday” or “Play First After School” on the family calendar. Once it’s there in black and white, it becomes the default expectation. Children this age can hold tomorrow in mind, so the promise carries weight.

• For under fives. Think rituals, not promises. They live in the moment, so the commitment has to be built into the routine. Try a special play basket that only comes out at a set time. “After breakfast, we open the basket of blocks” (or the toy farm, or the doll’s house - whatever she loves). The ritual itself is the commitment, and the environment holds it in place.

Try this: Mark your pledge on the calendar, or set out a basket that only appears at a fixed time each day.

2. Loss aversion

We hate losing more than we like gaining.

That’s why adults keep up a streak of daily runs, Duolingo lessons, or even Wordle wins - we don’t want to “lose” the progress we’ve made. For older children, a “play streak” chart can work in the same way: each screen-free day earns a star, and the thought of breaking the chain is motivating.

With younger children, though, this is much harder to pull off. They don’t yet have the executive function skills to think ahead and feel the sting of losing something abstract, like a future reward or a broken streak. To them, it can easily feel like punishment. In these cases, it’s usually better to rely on other nudges - quick-start activities, choice limitation, or social proof - that make play feel immediately rewarding rather than dependent on distant goals.

Try this: Use streaks with older children, but for younger ones choose nudges that deliver instant rewards, like a quick-start basket.

3. Present bias

We grab what’s most rewarding right now. Screens are designed for this.

Try this: Create a “quick-start basket” of activities that need no prep – pens and paper, a puzzle, a ball. Place it exactly where your child usually reaches for a device. When play feels just as immediate, the choice shifts.

Note: This is where invitations to play shine. Set up an enticing scene - however small - and watch your child become captivated by the story. A couple of strands of red and white wool might be all it takes. Where invitations go wrong is when you spend too long setting them up. Instead, see them as a quick, throwaway experiment. Does my child engage with this? If not, ditch it and move on to something else. You are teaching your child to see the fun and possibility in everything so failures still count as wins.

4. Social proof

We copy what others do. Children especially.

My daughter has never been very confident with maths. She needs more practice with her number bonds, but worksheets make her anxious. So one afternoon I sit at the table with a pile of receipts, pretending to do my “accounts.”

The numbers are small and, by some miracle, they all seem to add up neatly to ten or twenty. £5 + £5 for stationery. £6 + £4 + £7 + £3 for subscriptions. When I get stuck, I start counting on my fingers.

(Never underestimate how credulous a five-year-old can be!)

What are you doing, Daddy?

I’m doing my accounts. Look, these are all the things I’ve bought this month, and I have to check the totals.

Can I help?

Of course! This one’s tricky. I’ve got £6, £4, £7 and £3. I need to know how much that makes altogether but I don’t have enough fingers.

I know, Daddy! You can use those blocks.

How did they get there? And what do I do with them? I’ve never tried using counting blocks before.

Don’t worry, Daddy, I can show you!

And just like that, the fear disappears. Maths isn’t a worksheet or a test - it’s something you see your dad doing at the kitchen table.

In the words of Han Solo:

Sometimes I amaze even myself…

But really, this is social proof at its simplest. Children believe what they see. When you treat number bonds, drawing, or play as part of everyday life, they want in. And the more they join you, the more confident they become.

Try this: Next time you want your child to practise something - whether it’s drawing, building, or even maths - start doing it yourself in plain sight. Keep it simple, keep it playful, and wait for her to ask: “Can I help?”

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You’re in a restaurant, and you can feel your chest tightening.

The food still hasn’t arrived and things are about to tip over.

We’ve all been there. Will they behave for long enough for us to eat and get out before there’s a meltdown?

Daddy! We want the phone!

No. You know we don’t have phones at the table.

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Imagine this: Your child walks past her tablet without a second glance, heading straight for her Play Kit instead. She's not doing this because you've asked her to - she's doing it because breaking her commitment to play would feel harder than following through.

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Think of a child so deeply absorbed in play that she doesn't hear you call her for supper. Remember being that child yourself? That kind of effortless engagement with play isn't magic - it's the result of two powerful forces working together.

Nudges guide your child towards play. Habits keep her coming back.

The Play with Purpose approach

The Play with Purpose approach is built on a simple but powerful idea: when you understand how children naturally learn and develop, you can create the conditions that make play inevitable. Through careful attention to the play environment, thoughtful nudges, and the building of strong play habits, you help your child rediscover her innate drive to play, explore, and create.

Understanding nudges

A nudge is an environmental cue that gently guides behaviour. Think of it like a signpost - it doesn't force your child down a particular path, but it makes that path easier to follow.

When you leave an open sketchbook and favourite pencils on the table, position building blocks where your child naturally pauses, or create a cosy reading nook along her route to the kitchen, you're using nudges to suggest play possibilities.

Nudges work because they reduce the effort needed to start playing. Your child doesn't have to decide what to do, gather materials, or create space. The opportunity is already there, waiting.

The power of habits

While nudges get play started, habits keep it going. A habit is a behaviour that's become so automatic it feels strange not to do it.

Your child probably already has many habits - both helpful and unhelpful. That instinctive reach for the iPad after breakfast? That's a habit. But so is snuggling up for a bedtime story or building with blocks after coming home from school.

How nudges and habits work together

The magic happens when nudges and habits work in partnership. Consider a Play Kit - a self-contained collection of materials that invites your child to explore and create. When you place it where your child naturally passes, it acts as a nudge towards play. Each time she engages with it, she builds a habit of independent play. Add something new to the kit periodically, and you maintain both the nudge (fresh interest) and strengthen the habit (returning to explore).

This is especially powerful when you build on existing routines. Your child already has many daily habits, from putting away her breakfast bowl to hanging up her school bag. These become natural moments to attach play opportunities.

Creating conditions for success

Play habits, like all habits, can be disrupted by changes in routine, environment, or your child's interests. The key isn't to rigidly maintain patterns but to understand the principles behind them. When you know how nudges and habits work together, you can adapt them to new situations, helping your child maintain her connection to play even as circumstances change.

How to start today

Understanding the principles is just the first step. Here's how to put them into practice:

If play isn't happening naturally, start with a nudge.

• Leave out an unfinished activity

• Set up a simple, open-ended prompt (like a basic Play Kit with just a few materials)

• Reduce screen access so play feels easier

Then, build a habit.

• Attach play to a routine (e.g., "After lunch, we check our Play Kit shelf")

• Keep it simple - just five minutes a day is enough to start

• Be consistent. Habits need repetition

Final thoughts

Nudges make play appealing.

Habits make play inevitable.

By using both, you create a home where play isn't just an option - it's a way of life.

Looking ahead

Understanding how nudges and habits work together is just the beginning. In future articles, we'll explore specific strategies like Play Kits, toy rotation, and creating engaging play environments that turn independent play from a challenge into a natural part of your child's day.

What small nudge could you create today to start building tomorrow's play habits?

Imagine this:

Your child walks into the room and instinctively starts playing.

No whining, no "I'm bored!", no asking for a screen.

She picks up a toy, some craft materials or an unfinished project - and just gets on with it.

No reminders. No nagging.

It feels like magic. But it's not. It's the power of the nudge.

The science behind nudges

The concept of nudges comes from behavioural economics - the study of how people actually make decisions, rather than how we think they should make decisions. In their groundbreaking book "Nudge," Nobel Prize winner Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein revealed something fascinating about human behaviour: we don't always make rational decisions. Instead, we follow predictable patterns and take mental shortcuts.

This isn't a weakness - it's how our brains are designed to work. We are all lazy decision-makers. We follow the path of least resistance.

Think about your own daily choices. When fruit sits in a bowl on your kitchen counter, you're more likely to grab it than if it's hidden in the fridge. When you leave your trainers by the door, you're more likely to go for that morning walk. These aren't conscious decisions - they're responses to what's easy and obvious.

When it comes to children and play, this understanding is particularly powerful. Your child isn't consciously choosing screens over toys - she's following the easiest path available. By changing that path, you change the outcome.

Understanding choice architecture

The way we arrange our children's play spaces matters more than we might think. Every toy's position, every material's accessibility, every sight line through your home creates a subtle message about what activities are possible and desirable.

Strategic visibility becomes your most powerful tool. Position open-ended materials where your child naturally looks and moves. Create clear sight lines through your space so play opportunities catch her attention. Even simple changes in lighting can draw her towards certain areas and materials, making play feel like an obvious choice.

The principle of rotation adds another layer of effectiveness. Rather than overwhelming your child with choices, keep most toys in storage and rotate them regularly. Display only a few, carefully chosen options at once. When you change the position of familiar materials, you create fresh interest - even old toys feel new when they appear in unexpected places.

💡 Example: Place a partially completed wooden railway track in the hall rather than the sitting room, where your child naturally walks after lunch. Our brains are naturally drawn to complete unfinished tasks - psychologists call this the Zeigarnik effect. The unfinished state creates a gentle pull towards engagement.

Who can walk past this puzzle without wanting to finish it?

And who can resist the urge to find the matching letter sound to go with these pictures?

Making play the easy choice

Behavioural science reveals that even tiny obstacles can deter action. Every step between your child and play becomes a potential barrier. This understanding transforms how you set up play spaces.

Physical accessibility matters more than you might think. Keep play materials in containers your child can easily open and reach. Create dedicated spaces for messy play so setup doesn't become a barrier. Consider preparing Play Kits - complete sets of materials for specific activities, ready to use at a moment's notice.

Decision-making itself can become a barrier. When your child faces too many choices or unclear systems, she might default to easier options like screens. Sort materials into clear categories that make sense to her. Use visual cues to show where things belong. Make tidying feel manageable by creating simple, intuitive systems.

💡 Example: A craft tray with scissors, paper and glue already assembled removes all the small decisions and actions that might prevent your child from starting. She doesn't have to gather materials or wonder what goes together - she can simply begin creating.

Creating irresistible invitations

Understanding how your child's mind works helps you create truly inviting play opportunities. Our brains are naturally drawn to certain triggers - novelty, social connection, and authentic experiences. When you understand these triggers, you can use them to make play irresistible.

Novelty captures attention naturally. Your child might seem bored with her toys, but often it's the familiarity rather than the toy itself that's the issue. Adding unexpected elements to familiar toys creates fresh interest. A collection of conkers mixed in with building blocks suggests new possibilities. A few lengths of ribbon near the dressing up box sparks different ideas. Even moving toys to a new location can reignite interest - the same materials feel different when encountered in a new context.

Social connection drives engagement. Children are naturally drawn to activities they've seen others enjoy. Create visible reminders of happy play moments by displaying photos of your child engaged in different types of play. Keep evidence of previous creative projects where she can see them. Set up opportunities for her to share her play experiences with family or friends. When play feels socially valuable, it becomes more appealing.

💡 Example: Transform your child's play kitchen by periodically adding real-world items - measuring spoons, empty spice jars, or old receipts from the local shop. These authentic materials tap into her natural desire to mimic real activities she sees around her. When play feels real, it becomes more engaging.

Supporting executive functions through environment

Your play space can actively support your child's developing ability to plan, focus, and regulate her behaviour. The way you arrange materials and structure the environment can strengthen these crucial skills naturally, through play.

Clear but flexible zones help your child develop planning skills. Create distinct areas for different types of play, but allow for materials to move between them. This helps her learn to organise her thoughts and actions while staying adaptable. Include materials that require some planning and problem-solving, like construction toys or multi-step craft projects. Let her keep works in progress visible - seeing an unfinished project encourages her to plan how to continue it later.

Organisation systems that make sense to your child support independence. Rather than imposing adult organisational logic, observe how she naturally categorises and uses materials. Create storage solutions that match her thinking. Simple visual guides showing steps for setting up and putting away materials help her develop planning skills while making play more accessible. When she can manage her play space independently, her confidence grows.

💡 Example: Create a simple visual sequence showing how to prepare for painting: put on apron, spread newspaper, get water pot, choose colours. This supports both executive function development and independent play initiation.

Managing competing influences

Remember that nudges can work against play too. Screens are particularly skilled at creating their own powerful pulls, drawing children away from other activities. Understanding this helps you create an environment where play can flourish.

Environmental design becomes crucial. Think about your child's movement patterns through your home. Create routes that lead naturally past inviting play opportunities before reaching screen access points. Use physical barriers thoughtfully - not as punishment, but as gentle redirections toward other activities. Consider timing too - plan screen-free periods when your child's energy is high and she's most receptive to play.

Transitions deserve special attention. Moving between activities is often when children gravitate toward screens. Create before and after routines that support play instead. Use physical cues to signal different times of day - perhaps a special cushion that comes out for story time, or a play mat that signals construction time. These environmental signals help your child move smoothly between activities without defaulting to screens.

💡 Example: If your child typically asks for screens after school, create an inviting play setup along her path from the door to her usual screen location. A partially built marble run or an opened art journal can interrupt the automatic reach for digital entertainment.

When nudges need adjustment

Understanding common challenges helps create more effective nudges:

Timing matters. Sometimes a perfectly designed nudge fails simply because your child is hungry, tired, or emotionally overwhelmed. Pay attention to when your child is most receptive to play suggestions. Often, the hour after breakfast or just after a snack provides the best window for engagement.

Consistency counts. While novelty is important, too much change can create uncertainty. Make small, strategic adjustments rather than frequent overhauls. Allow time for habits to form. Your child needs to trust that she can find her favourite materials in predictable places.

Authenticity is essential. Children are surprisingly good at spotting manipulation. Focus on making play easier and more inviting rather than trying to trick your child into playing. The best nudges feel natural and aligned with your child's genuine interests.

An interest in baking, a cookbook on the table and, oh! Look! Some flour!

And some icing! How did that get there?

I love making biscuits.

Starting small

You don't need a complete playroom redesign to begin using nudges effectively. Start by observing your child's current play patterns. Notice where she naturally pauses, what catches her attention, and what barriers seem to stop her from engaging with certain toys or activities.

Choose one small change to implement - perhaps moving art materials to a more visible location or setting up a cosy reading corner along a frequently travelled path. Watch how your child responds and adjust accordingly.

Remember: The goal isn't to force play but to remove the obstacles that prevent play from happening naturally. When play becomes inevitable, it also becomes effortless. Your child rediscovers her natural drive to explore, create, and engage deeply with her world.

What small nudge could you try today?

Do you ever feel like your child is constantly waiting for the next instruction? That she struggles to complete tasks unless you remind her at every step?

This is not just frustrating - it is a sign that your child is relying on your executive functions instead of developing her own.

Executive functions allow us to plan, organise, and manage our actions. For children, strong executive function skills mean they can get dressed in the morning, follow multi-step instructions, and play independently - without needing constant direction.

But when children become prompt dependent, they look to adults for every decision, never developing the internal skills to manage their own tasks. And while this is common for many children, it is especially challenging for those with ADHD, who often struggle with nonverbal working memory (future thinking skills) and internal dialogue (their brain’s voice).

The good news? You can help your child transition from prompt dependence to independence.

The role of declarative language in building independence

One of the most powerful tools in this transition is declarative language.

Most of us naturally use imperative language with children:

• “Put your shoes on.”

• “Brush your teeth.”

• “Time to turn off the screen.”

This kind of direct instruction is sometimes necessary, but when overused, it keeps your child dependent on external guidance. She waits to be told what to do rather than thinking through the steps herself.

Declarative language shifts the responsibility to your child by making observations rather than demands:

• “I see shoes by the door.”

• “I wonder what comes next after dinner.”

• “I notice the clock says 7:30.”

This approach encourages internal dialogue, helping your child begin to problem-solve and take responsibility for her actions. Instead of always being told what to do, she pauses and thinks - which is exactly what executive function is all about.

How to shift from prompt dependence to independent play

At Play with Purpose, we focus on empowering children to develop independence through play. Here are three practical strategies to help.

Use play to strengthen executive function

Play is where executive function skills develop best. Open-ended activities like building with blocks, pretend play, or solving a puzzle naturally require planning, problem-solving, and working memory - all essential for independence.

Try this. Instead of giving step-by-step instructions in play, use declarative language:
- “I notice that tower is leaning a little.” (Instead of “Fix the blocks.”)
- “I wonder what will happen if you add more weight?”

This small shift encourages self-monitoring and problem-solving - two core executive function skills.

Reduce the need for constant reminders

Children who struggle with executive function often do not sense the passage of time well - which is why they need constant prompting. Instead of repeating yourself endlessly, try these Play with Purpose tools.

• Time nudges. Instead of “We have five minutes left!” say:

• “I notice the clock says 7:25. What does that mean for us?”

• Visual reminders. Keep a simple checklist for morning routines or after-school tasks so your child can refer to it independently.

• Works-in-progress spaces. If your child struggles with shifting tasks, create a dedicated spot for unfinished projects. This builds independence because she can return to play without needing reminders.

Foster internal motivation (not just external rewards)

Prompt-dependent children often wait for external motivation (a parent’s reminder, a reward, or an immediate consequence). The goal is to help them develop intrinsic motivation - so they want to complete tasks, even when no one is watching.

• Encourage reflection. Instead of praise like “Good job cleaning up,” try: “Wow, your play area is really organised now. How does that feel?”

• Break big tasks into smaller steps. Instead of “Clean your room,” ask: “What is one thing you could do first?”

Over time, these small changes help children develop their own internal voice - so they no longer need yours.

The bigger picture: from prompt dependence to self-regulation

Executive function skills do not just help your child get ready in the morning. They also determine how well she plays independently, how she handles frustration, and how she manages transitions.

At Play with Purpose, our goal is to give children the tools to build focus, perseverance, and self-regulation - without relying on constant adult input.

Instead of prompting your child at every turn, try these Play with Purpose strategies.

• Use declarative language to encourage problem-solving.

• Create play spaces that support independent exploration.

• Provide visual cues and nudges to build self-reliance.

• Allow children to experience natural consequences of their decisions.

The more opportunities they have to practise executive function in play, the stronger their independence will become in daily life.

Final thought

Your child can develop independence - even if she struggles with executive function now. But it will not happen overnight. The goal is not to suddenly withdraw support but to gradually shift responsibility to her in a way that feels natural.

Next time you catch yourself about to give a reminder, pause. Use a declarative statement instead. See what happens.

And when your child begins figuring things out on her own, enjoy that moment - you have just taken a step towards helping her become a confident, self-reliant thinker.

What if play could feel as natural and irresistible to your child as climbing a tree on a sunny day?

Right now, it might not.

• Your child flits from one activity to another.

• She complains she’s bored.

• She relies on you to set up games, suggest ideas, or keep her entertained.

It’s exhausting.

But what if play happened without you? What if your child had the same drive to play that you did at her age?

The secret isn’t more toys, new activities, or perfectly curated “invitations to play.”

The secret is habits.

Why play habits matter

Play isn’t just a way for your child to pass the time - it’s how she learns to think, solve problems, and regulate emotions. Your child has the same innate capacity for play that you had - she just needs the right conditions for it to flourish.

But without habits, play can feel effortful.

• Your child struggles to know how to start.

• She drifts away from activities too quickly.

• She asks for screens because they’re easier.

The shift: from effort to ease

When play becomes a habit, it feels natural and instinctive.

It’s not something you have to prompt, suggest, or supervise. Your child knows what to do and dives in confidently.

How habits work

James Clear, in Atomic Habits, explains that habits form through four key principles. Here’s how they apply to play:

1. Make it obvious

If play isn’t immediately visible, it won’t happen.

• Store toys where your child can see and reach them.

• Rotate materials to keep interest high.

• Leave out an unfinished project as a silent invitation.

• Leave out toys that remind you of your own childhood play - skipping ropes, building blocks, simple crafts. These time-tested play materials often spark the deepest engagement.

💡 Example: If your child struggles to start drawing, leave paper and crayons on the table after breakfast. No need to suggest it - she’ll naturally gravitate towards it. If this doesn’t work, Google ‘colouring pages’ plus your child’s favourite cartoon character and print a few out. That’s never failed yet!

2. Make it attractive

Play needs to feel tempting.

• Pair play with an existing routine (habit stacking).

• Give her choices, rather than assigning activities.

• Make small tweaks to refresh old toys (a toy in a new place feels new).

• Create a sense of mystery. Put a few toys in a special box that only comes out at certain times - anticipation makes play more appealing.

• Make it social. Even solo play feels more attractive when your child knows she can share her creations with you later (without interrupting the play itself).

• Add story elements. Leave a note from a toy saying it needs help building something, or create a simple treasure map leading to play materials.

• Show rather than tell. If you want her to explore sensory play, let her catch you enjoying it yourself - curiosity is contagious.

• Make it feel grown-up. Real tools (child-safe ones) and materials are often more tempting than toy versions. A real notebook feels more special than a play one.
  

💡 Example: "After we finish lunch, you can build with blocks or play with your craft kit. What do you feel like today?"

3. Make it easy

Lower the effort needed to start playing.

• Keep play materials organised and self-contained.

• Set up "ready-to-go" Play Kits.

• Create zones. Designate specific areas for different types of play - a quiet corner for reading, a space for building, a spot for art. When everything has its place, your child instinctively knows where to go.

• Follow the path of least resistance. Notice which toys your child reaches for first and make those even more accessible. Sometimes the easiest choice becomes the best choice.

• Remove hidden barriers. If art supplies need scissors but scissors need permission, the activity feels harder than it should. Look for these subtle obstacles and eliminate them where safe to do so.

• Break down complex toys. If your child avoids certain toys because they feel overwhelming, create simpler entry points. A big box of Lego becomes more approachable when sorted by colour or divided into smaller project bags.

• Use visual cues. Clear containers let your child see what's inside without opening them. Pictures on storage boxes help with both finding and putting away toys.

💡 Example: If your child struggles with deep focus, introduce a “one thing at a time” habit: before starting something new, she puts away what she was using.

4. Make it satisfying

When play feels rewarding, children naturally return to it.

• Celebrate what your child creates (without over-praising).

• Capture play moments - take a picture or display her projects.

• Allow for works in progress so she has something to come back to.

💡 Example: If she builds a Lego city, let it stay up for a few days instead of packing it away each evening. The satisfaction of seeing it grow will keep her engaged.

The habit stacking method: embedding play into daily routines

A habit stack pairs a new habit with something that’s already part of daily life.

This makes play feel effortless and automatic.

Examples of play habit stacks:

• After breakfast → 10 minutes of quiet independent play (e.g., puzzles, drawing).

• After putting away school shoes → Check the 'works in progress' shelf for an ongoing project.

• After bath time → A quick, calm play activity before bed (e.g., threading beads, looking at picture books).

At first, your child might need reminders, but over time, these routines become second nature.

Common roadblocks (and how to fix them)

Even with the best intentions, play habits don’t always form easily. Here’s how to overcome common challenges:

"My child loses interest too fast."

• Keep play materials limited - too many choices create overwhelm.

• Encourage deep play by reducing interruptions.
  

💡 Try this: If your child struggles to stick with a game, say, “I love what you’re making. I wonder what will happen if you add one more piece?” This small prompt keeps momentum going.

"She keeps asking for screens instead."

• Reduce screen visibility - if it’s not the easiest option, she won’t default to it.

• Create a "first, then" rule: “First 20 minutes of play, then you can ask for a screen.”
  

💡 Try this: If screens are a daily battle, set up a visible play alternative in the morning, before she even asks. Better yet, learn to Break the screen-time habit

"I don’t have time to set up play every day."

• That’s the point of habits - once they’re in place, you don’t have to.

• Use nudges to create low-effort invitations to play.
  

💡 Try this: Each evening, spend one minute setting out a simple play prompt - something half-started is always more inviting than a blank slate.

Final thoughts: from entertainer to guide

Your child doesn’t need you to entertain her.

She needs time, space, and small nudges to develop the habit of playing independently.

You don’t have to set up complicated activities. You don’t need to manage every moment.

Just make play the easiest, most obvious choice - and watch what happens.

Start today: Pick one small habit to focus on this week.

Over time, play won’t be something you have to suggest.

It will be something your child just does.

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A hug is a great place to start, but sometimes she doesn't want to be held.

And words don't work, especially if you are the cause of her sorrow.

When that happens, try this. It works because as your child watches you wordlessly demonstrate, her breath…

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Teaching your child lifelong self-regulation through mindful breathing

My son finds it hard to switch off at night.

An hour after lights have gone off, I hear a voice.

"Are you there, Dad? I can't sleep."

"What's wrong, son?"

"I'm having bad thoughts."

This usually means he’s worried about something that happened during the day or that he read in a book at be…

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A calming exercise for releasing tension

When your child feels overwhelmed or anxious, Blow the Worries Away offers a playful way to help her calm down and let go of those feelings. By pairing slow, intentional breathing with imagination - and even bubbles - this activity turns stress relief into a fun and engaging experience.

Materials needed

• None (option…

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Calming and empowering through mindful breathing**

When your child feels overwhelmed or restless, The Magic Breath offers a simple yet powerful way to help her find calm. This playful breathing technique combines movement, imagination, and mindfulness to reduce stress and encourage emotional regulation.

Materials needed

• None.

Instructions

1. Introduce the activ…

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